Beyond Sex & Salvation Book 1: Life Lessons
Beyond Sex & Salvation – Part 1 addresses three critical life lessons you want to learn before you fall in love. Keep in mind, life lessons take a lifetime to learn. You’re not going to have them all sewed up in eight weeks, but you’ll be miles ahead of most people just because you’re pursuing them.
These are deceptively hard lessons, but they only get harder to learn the older you get. Indeed, many choose not to learn them, but their relationships pay the price. Then when they get married, their marriage pays the price. Sometimes that price is divorce. At the very least, it’s major marital dissatisfaction.
If you don’t wish to join the disappointed and disillusioned, determine to pursue maturity in these areas now and set yourself up for relational success:
- with family members
- with co-workers
- in friendship
- in dating
- in your future marriage
What are the 3 Lessons?
We present the first of three critical life lessons for relational success. Lessons you’d rather start learning BEFORE you fall in love. That is, unless you prefer learning things the hard way.
Still need more convincing that Beyond Sex & Salvation offers juicy, wholesome goodness that can empower you to succeed in relationships?
Want to read a little bit first?
Check out these blog posts from our Date Night Advice (DNA) which are taken right out of the book itself. And more to come over the next few weeks.
The Truth about Happily Ever After
Unless, of course, these words are being read by a small group of starving, homeless orphans in an isolated, undeveloped country. Ravaged by civil war. In the middle of a drought or flood. Or both.
Actually, even people in situations like that learn contentment. For real.
Here’s the hard truth:
Contentment isn’t someone you’re going to meet.
“I finally found ‘The One!’ We’re matched up in 29 different areas of compatibility!”
It’s not something you’re going to get.
“I’m getting married! ’Happily ever after’ – here I come!”
Contentment is something you have to learn. [Read more.]
Set Your Expectations Accordingly
But godliness actually is a means of great gain when accompanied by contentment for we brought nothing into the world, and we cannot take anything out of the world. But if we have food and clothing, with these we will be content. – 1 Tim 6:6-8 (NAS)
Paul appeals to us to change our expectations. Instead of determining that we will only be content once we find the trophy spouse, achieve financial independence and live in perfect health (or have 1.5 kids, buy a home or whatever else you may want), He says lower your expectations. Be content with food and clothing.
As we consider this, we can’t ignore the fact that the goals we strive to obtain in our Western civilization – things like financial independence and perfect health – are completely out of reach of the vast majority of the world’s population. [read more]
What Are You HANKerin’ For?
Ever seen the Starbucks’ Double-shot Espresso “Hank” commercial? (If not, watch it below.) In it, some hapless-looking 20-something named Hank partakes of the Starbucks’ canned beverage and winds up with an actual cheering section chanting his name wherever he goes.
Now, what does a double-shot of espresso really promise you? Perhaps your favorite coffee flavor? Certainly some energy? What about a cheering section? Would you expect fans to follow you just because you drank a double-shot? No.
But imagine if someone did. Imagine if some naïve individual saw that ad and really expected that. He buys a beverage, pops the top and… nothing happens. He takes a sip. Nothing. He finishes his drink and still hears no music, no cheers, no sound at all. Then imagine him exploding in anger, “WHERE’S MY CHEERING SECTION!?!?! I’VE BEEN RIPPED OFF!!!”
See where wrong expectations leave you? [read more]
If You had that Special Someone…
I only recognized how much I had bought into our culture’s pervasive false romance meta-narrative after 12 years of marriage. My self discovery came courtesy of Michael Knight and his tricked-out Trans Am, KITT.
For those who were living in a nuclear bomb shelter throughout the 80s – or who weren’t yet born – Knight Rider was the family television drama to watch, or so I thought at age 11. It starred Baywatch’s David Hasselhoff as high-tech crime fighter.
When I got the first season on DVD a couple years ago, I thought I had died and gone to 80s heaven, but then I put the first disc in the player. [read more]
Still Wanting More?
That’s why I wrote the discipleship series, so why not buy the book?!
You can walk through it on your own, but it’s more fun with friends, so consider putting together an FMU LoveEd small group study. Even better? And ask a married couple you respect to lead it!