College Bound? Don’t Leave Home before Reading This!

Dear College Student,

I was there once: leaving for college! And I was stoked! (“Stoked” is what you were in 1989 when you were really excited about something.)

I could hardly wait for this new adventure to begin!

That might have had something to do with the fact that when I showed up for freshman orientation earlier that Summer, I met about a dozen amazingly beautiful chicas who loved Christ. In other words, there were gorgeous, Godly girls everywhere.

And when I moved into my dorm, on the campus of Baylor University, I was determined to make one of those lovely ladies mine (My precious!). As quickly as possible, by the way. (Because love is patient, but I had goals.)

By the end of Welcome Week I had already identified a real potential. She was beautiful and funny. And thought I was funny. Even better? She loved Jesus. For realz. (Oh, and I think her IQ was something near genius level, but I wasn’t too concerned about that.)

After getting to know her a little (and flirting a lot), I got up the courage to ask her to homecoming.

I actually rapped my request. In the food court of our Student Union Building.

In front of most of our friends.

And she said, “Yes!”

Actually, she was one of over thirty girls that said, “Yes,” to a date invite from me my Freshman year.

You see, about the same time I started detecting cold feet from my homecoming date (who was probably using that high IQ of hers to discern how needy I was) I realized the favorable gender ratio was in my favor on an unprecedented level.

So I could either continue to try and turn this one girl into my girlfriend, or I could choose to take a different lovely lady out each weekend. Under the circumstances, the latter seemed less risky. It certainly required far less personal vulnerability on my part, since you can’t disclose too much or fall too deeply for someone on the first date.

Why am I telling you all of this?

Because I look back on my college years and realize the way I was going about relationships was not quite right. I did a lot of things well, but I also did a lot of things wrong. And the wrong things made my dating life far more painful than it ever had to be.

And that’s where you come in, College Bound. I want to see you leave home for your future alma mater with confidence!

Sure, I hope you learn lots and get the degree you’re paying for, but I want you to arrive on campus ready to build great relationships with roommates, club friends, classmates, church friends, and, perhaps, eventually a girl or boyfriend. And then…


I want you to leave college with life-giving relationships that last a lifetime.


Maybe even leave with a best friend who becomes your spouse.

Would you like that?

Then here’s your link to relational joy and wonder. Click it and begin preparing for relational success when it counts: before you fall in love.

Don’t wait! Key posts from the Future Marriage University (FMU) archives await you on this one page dedicated to speaking directly to college bound students like you! And while you’re at it, forward this post to a fellow college-bound student.

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