Preventing First Date FAILS (Part Juan)

Date Night Advice (DNA) series: TOP 10 Signs You’re on a Bad First Date
Sign #7 & #2: Preventing First Date FAILS (Part 1)

yellThis weekend, it’s a DNA twofer where we tackle both #7 and #2 of TOP10 Signs You’re on a Bad First Date.
Why tackle two at once?

Well, because.

Ah.

(Surprise plot twist coming.)

#7 and #2 are actually two parts of the same first date horror story! (Remember this TOP10 was derived from actual experiences submitted by real life people like you.)

#7 – Once seated at the restaurant you find out your date’s ex works there, and you “just so happen” to be sitting in their section.
#2 – During dinner, your date and your server continue to eye one another and when you leave your date drops a $20 tip… and a personal note.

Talk about things that make you go ewww.

No need to go into just how messed up this is. It takes “awkward,” multiplies it by “immature,” and then takes that product to the “unbelievable” power. For math geeks, that equation would look like so:

(AWKWARD x IMMATURE)UNBELIEVABLE =

And what does that equal?

Get out of Dodge!

Flee!

RUN!

And don’t look back!

I don’t care if your date finally truly breaks it off with their ex and wants a second date. They used you in a really selfish and despicable way – like a pawn they could sacrifice to win their king or queen.

You need to forgive them, but you don’t need to give them another chance to flagrantly disrespect you.

So if I’m not going to dissect this behavior, what am I going to do?

I’m going to share a simple secret to keep you from ever having a First Date FAIL like this again.

Even better, if you follow this simple secret it will almost prevent any more first date horror stories ever.

Sound too good to be true? Maybe.

Or maybe it’s just something that, though simple to understand, will prove hard to implement, like losing weight by eating less and exercising more, instead of just taking some magic pill.

Indeed, this suggestion is guaranteed to work, but you will likely have to totally change the way you approach dating. But for the better.

The question you have to ask yourself is this:


Are you ready to change your dating habits, so you can care for your heart as if it were the precious gift of God it is?


And then you have to ask yourself: Are you willing to do this even if it means exercising far more care in your dating choices and ultimately going out on fewer dates with fewer partners?

If you answered YES to both questions, then read on, because I’ve got the fool-proof plan to avoiding another first date fiasco where you find out that:

  • Your date can only talk about themselves
  • Your date hardly speaks at all
  • Your date speaks their mind too freely
  • Your date only has one thing on their mind
  • Your date is actually out of their mind
  • Your date doesn’t mind drinking too much
  • Your date doesn’t have much in common with you

Do you want to bid a final farewell to all first date disasters?

Then tune in next week for the simple solution.

However, it’s likely you could figure out this little secret on your own. Start by prayerfully reflecting on your dating life and…


See if you can identify any dating patterns or habits that contribute to each of your First Date FAILS.


What could you have done differently to have avoided them (other than simply saying, “No.). This sort of introspection will likely prove far more helpful to you than any tips I can give you anyway.





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