TOP5 Things Sex has in Common with Halloween

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Just like the Great Pumpkin it rises again this year: the TOP5 Things Sex has in Common with Halloween!

#5: Trick or Treat
If it wasn’t for trick-or-treating, I’m not sure there would be a Halloween. It’s not a holiday with that much depth.

Unless, of course, you’re a Druid or real life witch. And if you are, I hope you aren’t offended by the suggestion that everyone else is pretty much in it for the candy. (We Christians know how it feels. Rumor has it that many are only into Christmas for the presents. Speaking of, Jesus loves you more than kids love candy.)

Many people have been tricked into giving someone sex. While others use sex as a treat to get what they want out of a relationship (or at least what they think they want). But…


True love doesn’t play tricks and can’t be earned with treats.


That’s because love, by its very nature, is a gift freely shared.

#4: The Devil
I actually dressed up as the devil one Halloween when I was in elementary school. I’m still not certain how my parents signed off on that. Perhaps they figured if the mask fit…

Regardless, you should know that Satan is real and he dresses up too. Sometimes as an angel in light. Sometimes as a really good looking person who you should not be dating.

And yes he’d love to have you believe that sex isn’t that big a deal. In fact, one of his favorite ways of temptation, is to start by asking, “Did God really say…?

#3: Masks
Who doesn’t love a costume party? It’s fun to pretend to be someone (or something) else for an evening.

What’s not fun is to pretend while you’re having sex.

Actually it’s more than not fun. It’s tragic, and research reveals that this is precisely what the majority of both college men and women in the hook-up culture are doing. They’re acting like they’re enjoying themselves when in reality, they feel dirty, used and cheap. It’s why alcohol is a frequent part of the hook-up mix. Just the thing to deaden the senses.

However, sex was never meant to be a performance. It was meant to be the most intimate physical expression of intimacy between two lovers, intimately connected (and committed) in every other way, for life. No masks necessary.

#2: Ghosts
Scary ghost stories will be told aplenty this season. What’s scarier is how past sexual experiences can become ghosts that haunt us in later relationships and right into marriage.

This is true even if that sexual experience wasn’t with anyone else. I’m referring to pornography. Porn torments many a soul.


Relationships may die and browsing histories may be erased, but regrets and heart wounds remain.


So if you want to be able to live fully in the present without being troubled by your sexual past, consider this one single sexual boundary for your dating life. And as for porn, start with recognizing the lies it’s telling you. And then recognize the truth.

#1: Fear
For many, Halloween is the celebration of fear. Sadly, if we’re honest, there’s a lot of fear surrounding sex. Performance anxiety (and the resulting ED) is the reason for half the commercials that air during my Titan’s game each Sunday. Then you’ve got the fear of contracting an STD or winding up with an unwanted pregnancy. Then there’s the fear of having personal photos you thought were private going public.

But God’s word says there is no fear in love. That’s why our loving God set up safe boundaries for sex, so that fear might be the farthest thing from your mind when you’re enjoying the gift of sexual intimacy.

Trust God’s will for your life and enjoy the rest of your Fall. And don’t eat too much candy.

Want more on sex? Check out our LoveEd YouTube video series, TOP10 Benefits of Saving Sex for Marriage. Or just check out our Hot Topic page dedicated to a Biblical perspective on human sexuality.

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