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Intercourse: It’s Not Just a City in Pennsylvania

dna-intercourseThis post wasn’t actually inspired by any particular city, but by the fact that the TOP5 most read posts of last year were all about sex, and every one of them came from a series I now affectionately refer to as The Sexual Intercourse. Since this topic seems to resonate so powerfully with so many, I thought I’d synopsize the entire series here for posterity. [read more]

The Five Sex Lies

dna-five sex lies“They tell you sex has become a mess because it was hushed up. But for the last twenty years it has not been hushed up. It has been chattered about all day long. Yet it is still in a mess.

If hushing up had been the cause of the trouble, ventilation would have set it right. But it has not.

I think it is the other way round. I think the human race originally hushed it up because it had become such a mess.”

C.S. Lewis includes this observation in his complete treaties on sexual morality in Mere Christianity, but not even Lewis could have grasped how prophetic his words would become.

In the hopes of bringing a little more clarity to this emotionally charged topic I present The Five Sex Lies. [read more]

The Secret to an Epic Sex Life

dna-epic sexCan I be honest?

The hope of an epic sex life was probably the primary marriage motivator for me. Though never openly professed, buried in my subconscious was this assumption:

If I’m not going to have great sex,

How I wish someone would have challenged me prior to marriage with these words:

“If you only want the sex…” [read more]

How not to Wind up a 40-year-old Virgin (or a 40-year old who has had lots of sex, but is still desperately lonely)

II-40 year old virgin-crop (2)I have a friend who lost his virginity in high school.

Thank goodness he didn’t wind up a 40-year-old virgin, right?

I mean how embarrassing that would be!

How sad!

How pathetically retrograde!

Of course he lost his virginity to some girl he barely knew. A girl who apparently knew a whole lot more about sex than he did.

At least she understood the procedure, but didn’t seem to grasp the purpose.

That is to say she had “experience,” but she didn’t have… [read more]

Are you Already Cheating?

dna-already cheatingConsider the following scenarios:

Situation #1: You’re in class taking a test. You’re stumped on question two (quite the auspicious beginning). However, you know the brainiac next to you always has the right answer. They’ve also left that right answer uncovered when you glance over. And question three and question four and…

Hopefully we don’t need a college level course on ethics to determine whether this is cheating.

Situation #2: The night before the test you get a hold of the answer key and memorize it.

Is that cheating? Of course! Cheating is cheating whether it’s before, during or after the test.

Why would it be different with sex? [read more]


Once upon a time, the man would give his beloved a ring.

Now he gives her a key.

Or maybe she gives him a key.

Or maybe they share keys.

Not the keys to their heart, mind you, although they might romanticize it like that.

Then again, at other times in other cultures, the woman’s family would offer the man a dowry, or the man might give the woman’s family a goat or a cow.

What’s in a key? What’s in a ring? What’s in a goat? Does it matter what’s exchanged?

Perhaps you have contemplated the “trial marriage.”

Whether you have or not, I hope you’ll be open to contemplating this post, because I’ve given quite a bit of thought to this whole cohabitation thing over the last ten years or so of my 23 years of marriage. [read more]