WARNING: Preparing for Marriage is NOTHING Like Building a Bike
This weekend’s DNA comes directly from the BRAND NEW PART 2 of the LoveEd guidebook series, Beyond Sex & Salvation (Part 2: Three Key Life Decisions for Relational Success) AVAILABLE NOW FOR INSTANT DOWNLOAD! Here’s this weekend’s excerpt…
Did you know you already have a rough blueprint of what your future marriage will be like? You do!
Know where you got it?
Don’t remember getting it? Well, before you call and ask about it, understand this blueprint was never printed on large, thin, blue pages. That’s not how parents give their children their marital blueprint.
Parents pass down their own special marital blueprint by simply living out their marriage in front of their kids. In other words, the marital blueprint your parents gave you is the blueprint they followed themselves, which is likely a version of the marital blueprint they received from your grandparents.
Perhaps that marital blueprint makes room for an emotions closet where you can stuff all your hurt, confusion and anger. (Make it roomy, or its contents might spill out into the accompanying bedroom.) Maybe it includes an indoor shooting range where you can fire off verbal abuse whenever you like (at whoever happens to be around). What about a place to drown your cares? Put a pool out back and fill it with the drug of your choice. And don’t forget about a darkroom where you can engage in those “hobbies” you don’t want others to know about.
Did I miss anything?
If at this point you are beginning to feel a panic attack coming on, if you’re ready to throw up or scream for help, know you’re not alone. Many would like to do anything but model their own marriage after their parents’. (That’s one of the reasons for writing this guidebook.)
What kind of plan do you think it takes to build a successful marriage? Simple directions or a blueprint? Why?
How do you think our culture prepares people for marriage: like you need a full-scale blueprint or just some directions? Why?
Click here to read another excerpt from Beyond Sex & Salvation (Part 2: Three Key Life Decisions for Relational Success).
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