“You Got Fine Written All Over You!” (Part I)

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We’ve just started analyzing the TOP10 SIGNS YOU’RE ON A BAD FIRST DATE, but before continuing, I want to clarify that some of the entries in this TOP10 wouldn’t be awkward at all for two people who have been dating for some time. For instance, this week we’re tackling the 2nd part of #10: Your date’s opening line is: “Are you a parking ticket cuz you got fine written all over you!”

Ironically, a bad come-on line is funny between good friends for the same reason that it’s not funny on a first date, because when you deliver a doozy like this to someone with whom you’re already in relationship, you’re making fun of those who throw out lines like this in the hopes of starting a relationship. Having conveyed that disclaimer, let’s get back to that “fine” pick-up line.

In contrast to last week’s opening zinger, “OK. Let’s get this over with,” this witty little one-liner communicates a completely different message about your date’s interest in spending time with you. However, it also sends the same message of disrespect. (That’s in addition to revealing your date has the maturity level of a Junior Higher on a Mountain Dew high.)

What’s so disrespectful, ask ye? Isn’t this is a compliment? Hmmm. Well yes and no. It could be considered a compliment in relation to ones physical appearance. (Who wouldn’t want to be so good looking as to have fine written all over them?)

However, your date just started out the evening with a comment fixated on your physical appearance. This isn’t favorable foreshadowing of your relational future (unless you’re hoping to secure a six-figure modeling contract instead of a soul mate). Keep in mind, they said you have fine written “all over you.” I can even see them looking you up and down as they say it. (Motion sickness bag, please.)

Of course, there’s nothing wrong with looking “fine as a parking ticket.” At the very least, I hope your date appreciates how the Creator of the universe created you, but I also hope your date views you as a person of inestimable value and not a piece of meat with a cost per pound.

I actually have more I want to say on this topic, so we’ll continue this discussion next weekend. Until then, prayerfully consider how you measure your own sense of self worth: on how you look or who you really are.

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