Date Like You Know/DatePrep (week 3)

Discussion Questions:

Chapter 4: Why It’s So Easy to Fall for the Wrong Person

  1. How would you describe the difference between being worthy of love and being ready for a serious relationship? Do you sometimes confuse the two?
  2. What can we learn from the Gibeonite’s deception of Joshua (recorded in Joshua 9) concerning the importance of taking the time to get to know someone (and pray about them) before a first date?
  3. What are the differences between making sacrifices for someone and enduring abuse from them?
  4. What’s wrong with dating a sexually promiscuous person, if you fully intend to uphold your convictions?
  5. What’s the difference between trying to make a wise choice and trying to make the perfect choice, and why should wisdom, instead of perfection, be the goal?
  6. Why would we ever fear “asking too many questions” will ruin a relationship?

Chapter 5: You Shouldn’t Date People to Change Them

  1. Why is it a bad idea to date someone hoping to change them for the better?
  2. Why can it be tempting to date a loner and yet how does dating a loner hurt them?
  3. How can a fool be such a burden to their family, while someone else can fall in love and date that same fool and enjoy it?
  4. Why are we tempted to seek mutual chemistry over mutual respect?
  5. How can you keep from being fooled in love by someone who’s intentionally trying to deceive you?

Chapter 6: You Might Already Know “The One”

  1. Why is it easy (and common) to overlook a solid dating candidate you could build a fabulous relationship with?
  2. Are you tempted to derive your identity from your dating life? Why or why not? What is the evidence?
  3. How can dating a controller make you feel special and loved… at first?
  4. What can we learn from Samson (in Judges 16) about dating an unbeliever? Does this passage communicate God’s blessing or approval of such unions?
  5. Do you find yourself attracted to any of these Mr./Ms. Wrongs? If so which one(s) and why?
  6. Do you always seem to attract the wrong person? If so, why do you think that is?
  7. Do you personally identify with any one of these unhealthy personality profiles? If so, how?

Video Resources:

For further perspective on the importance of taking your time in your dating life to avoid falling for Mr. or Ms. Wrong, watch this LoveEd episode from the Purpose Driven Dating playlist:

The rest of the videos related to this section of the book come from two MAN2MAN memo series where we’re speaking directly to men, but the material still speaks to both genders. More than that, hearing the same truths from a different point of view can expand your understanding of the truths presented.

In these three videos from our FMUniversity YouTube channel we present eight of the nine Mr./Ms. Wrongs from the perspective of self-assessment. In other words, from the standpoint of discerning whether you yourself might be Mr./Ms. Wrong.

  1. Are You the Right Guy for the Right Girl? (addresses the Stranger, the Violent Person, the Sexually Promiscuous, the Loner)
  2. 4 Guys Women Should NOT Date (addresses the Fool, the Deceiver, the Insecure Person, and the Unbeliever)
  3. What’s Wrong with Being a Lone Wolf? (addresses the Loner further)

Or watch all three videos in the MAN2MAN memo series, Are You Ready To Date?:

In these five videos we present eight of the nine Mr./Ms. Wrongs from the standpoint of who you shouldn’t date.

  1. What to Look for in a Girlfriend (addresses the Stranger and the Loner)
  2. 2 Non-negotiables You Want in a Girlfriend (addresses the Insecure person and the Deceiver)
  3. 2 Major Dating Red Flags (addresses the Violent person and the Fool)
  4. Should You Only Date a Virgin? (addresses the Sexually Promiscuous)
  5. Is it OK to Date an Unbeliever (addresses the Unbeliever)

Or watch all five videos from the MAN2MAN memo playlist, Prepare to Meet Your Girlfriend, here: