Understand Sex

Would you like to understand sex better?

Surely no other topic in the world is talked about more and understood less.

On the one hand, sex is promoted as the ultimate life experience you don’t want to die without enjoying. At the same time, sex is downplayed as so meaningless you ought to be able to enjoy it with whomever, whenever, however.

That is, as long as there’s consent. Without consent, a sexual encounter is seen as a gross violation of one’s personhood. But how does this make sense if sexual intimacy is so benign; so inconsequential?

Would you like to make sense of it all?

Then you’ve come to the right place, because curated for your sexual health, this page was designed to point you to our most helpful posts and videos we’ve produced to empower you to view the mystery of human sexuality through a Biblical lens.

What Sex is About: The 10 Secrets of Sex

When it comes to the topic of sex, there’s a lot of information (and even more opinion) floating out there (not to mention pornography), but in this post we’ll address the topic from a practical, Biblical perspective. as we reveal the 10 Secrets of Sex.

I pray (and truly believe) at least one of these secrets will bring a deeper understanding of human sexuality, but you’ll want to follow the appropriate hyperlinks where they lead to read further, and understand more clearly.

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The Five Sex Lies

“They tell you sex has become a mess because it was hushed up. But for the last twenty years it has not been hushed up. It has been chattered about all day long. Yet it is still in a mess.

If hushing up had been the cause of the trouble, ventilation would have set it right. But it has not.

I think it is the other way round. I think the human race originally hushed it up because it had become such a mess.”

C.S. Lewis includes this observation in his complete treaties on sexual morality in Mere Christianity, but not even Lewis could have grasped how prophetic his words would become.

In the hopes of bringing a little more clarity to this emotionally charged topic I present The Five Sex Lies. [read more]

Why God Cares Who You Sleep With

In his latest book, pastor/author, Sam Allberry, poses the question: Why does God care who I sleep with?

Has that thought occurred to you?

It’s a question the masses are asking. Including the masses who attend mass. As well as those who go to Protestant churches.

Indeed, 27% of evangelicals (age 20-49) support cohabitation. That is not a quarter of Christians who approve of couples merely sleeping together, but who approve of a living arrangement that normalizes and celebrates sleeping together.

Allberry’s book-format allows for a far more thorough answer to the question, so I encourage you to check out his work.

However, for this post I wanted to have a little fun addressing this query from a different angle, and so I present here the TOP5 Fallacies about Why God Cares Who You Sleep With. It is a look at five popular, but FALSE perspectives behind why God wants to get all up in your bedroom when it comes to sex. [read more]

Premarital Sex & the Scriptures

If you prefer watching to reading, check out the LoveEd series, Premarital Sex & the Scriptures, on our FMUniversity YouTube channel.

The Secret to an Epic Sex Life

Would you like to know the secret to an epic sex life?

Well I have to be honest. I don’t know if you’ll believe me.

Prior to marriage, I probably wouldn’t have believed what I’m about to tell you.

Indeed, it wasn’t until almost 10 years into marriage where I finally understood the secret I’m about to share in a way I could never doubt. And could thus finally deeply delight in.

And that’s sad, because the hope of an epic sex life was probably the primary marriage motivator for me.

Though never openly professed, buried in my subconscious was this assumption:

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How not to Wind up a 40-year-old Virgin (or a 40-year old who has had lots of sex, but is still desperately lonely)

II-40 year old virgin-crop (2)I have a friend who lost his virginity in high school.

Thank goodness he didn’t wind up a 40-year-old virgin, right?

I mean how embarrassing that would be!

How sad!

How pathetically retrograde!

Of course he lost his virginity to some girl he barely knew. A girl who apparently knew a whole lot more about sex than he did.

At least she understood the procedure, but didn’t seem to grasp the purpose.

That is to say she had “experience,” but she didn’t have… [read more]

Are you Already Cheating?

dna-already cheatingConsider the following scenarios:

Situation #1: You’re in class taking a test. You’re stumped on question two (quite the auspicious beginning). However, you know the brainiac next to you always has the right answer. They’ve also left that right answer uncovered when you glance over. And question three and question four and…

Hopefully we don’t need a college level course on ethics to determine whether this is cheating.

Situation #2: The night before the test you get a hold of the answer key and memorize it.

Is that cheating? Of course! Cheating is cheating whether it’s before, during or after the test.

Why would it be different with sex? [read more]


Once upon a time, the man would give his beloved a ring.

Now he gives her a key.

Or maybe she gives him a key.

Or maybe they share keys.

Not the keys to their heart, mind you, although they might romanticize it like that.

Then again, at other times in other cultures, the woman’s family would offer the man a dowry, or the man might give the woman’s family a goat or a cow.

What’s in a key? What’s in a ring? What’s in a goat? Does it matter what’s exchanged?

Perhaps you have contemplated the “trial marriage.”

Whether you have or not, I hope you’ll be open to contemplating this post, because I’ve given quite a bit of thought to this whole cohabitation thing over the last ten years or so of my 23 years of marriage. [read more]

The Naked Truth about Your Body

naked-truthThere was a time when I was quite the cutie pie. Or course, this was back when I was in elementary school.

But that’s only half the story. It was better than just having good looks. I actually looked a lot like the hottest young television actor of the day: Ricky Schroder.

You likely don’t know who that is, but back in the 80s he was the star of a show called Silver Spoons, and the chicks loved him! You couldn’t really compare him to any one star today, because back then there were only three TV channels and Ricky made his appearance on one of them every week. So we’re talking huge!

And I looked like him.

Now I would never have said this about myself, but I didn’t have to. Everyone else said it. My friends laughed about the resemblance. And strangers would sometimes stop me and point it out.

However, little did I know, my reign of vanity had an expiration date. And it was fast approaching. [read more]