Why It’s So Easy to Fall for the Wrong Person
In this chapter and the two that follow, we will identify nine Wrong Persons; that is nine personality profiles you should not date. However, my guess is that for most of them, you might think, “Duh! Why would I want to date somebody like that? Of course I’ll avoid them! I’m not desperate.”
And yet, seemingly normal, healthy, intelligent individuals wind up dating partners like this every day. Perhaps one of those seemingly normal, healthy, intelligent individuals has even been you … I mean someone you know. Indeed, many wind up even marrying the kind of wrong persons I’m about to describe.
What explains this?
It’s simple: the kind of traits I’m going to warn you about are not obvious to spot right away, which means that to discern some of these red flags, it will take getting to know your date over a significant period of time.
In the meantime, there will be other positive traits about the person you’re interested in that you can’t ignore:
- They’re gorgeous.
- They’re easy to talk with.
- They’re funny.
- They’re into the same things you are.
- They’re also into you. A lot.
- They’re a great kisser.
- They’re kind to woodland creatures.
This is why one of the biggest challenges of dating is looking past the obvious positive qualities your date possesses (or at least presents) to discern the potential presence of negative qualities that are not so obvious. Especially if your date is actively trying to hide these negative traits from you.
If that task wasn’t hard enough already, it can be even more difficult if your date’s positive qualities have you falling in love with them before you’ve had a chance to perceive any red flags.
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A dating life that leads to a life-giving, lifelong marriage doesn’t happen by accident. You need to know what you’re doing.
That’s why I wrote Date Like You Know What You’re Doing to empower you to:
- Discern God’s will for your dating life.
- Avoid heartbreak, rejection, and regret.
- Date with confidence and clarity.
- Win the war over sexual temptation.
- Let your marriage hopes inspire, instead of impede your dating life.